This book explains the forgiveness process in very simple terms which can be easily understood and followed. Not only that, it explains the huge benefits of forgiveness. The release from the stress that resentment brings can be enormous. It is well known that letting go of the past can be like breaking free from heavy chains.
It is also clear that you don’t have to agree that a particular act was right to be able to forgive the person or organisation. In fact, some things are clearly wrong and evil. That doesn’t mean that they cannot be forgiven, as you will discover if you read this book.
The language that Barbara uses is very clear. The order in which she explains everything is logical. That makes it all very easy to follow.
It is also clear that the author is compassionate and takes time to understand the concerns of her clients. Through he writing, she connects with the reader. At least, that is how I felt.
I confess that I knew Barbara before I read her book, but my what I read in this book just served to confirm my opinion of her as a caring, compassionate person who really understands this subject. She has many years of personal and case experience and refers to this throughout the book.
For me, there was far too much preamble before I reached the explanation of the process itself. Two-thirds of the book is taken up with explaining what “forgiveness” is and is not and the meanings of “resentment” and “ego.” There are also lots of quotes from other books on the topic; too many for me. However, they are all relevant and I am sure that other readers will place great value in them.
I raised my concern that it took too long to get to the forgiveness made easy process with the author. Her advice was to skip straight through to the process. So, my advice to you, dear potential reader, is to start reading from the beginning. If you start getting to the point where you can’t wait any longer to get into the process, go straight to it. You can come back and read more about forgiveness, resentment and ego at a later date.
Having said all of that, I can tell you that this book is excellent and will bring you real benefits. You will learn a lot. You will learn a lot about yourself. You will discover people, organisations, events and acts that you need to forgive, some of which will surprise you. You probably have some self-forgiveness to go through. That’s right! You need to forgive yourself.
Then, when you come to the process, you will find it fairly easy, even if it is traumatic, to follow. And it works!
Finally, and coincidentally, in parallel to Forgiveness Made Easy, I was reading a psychological suspense novella from which I take the following quote. It was like a blinding light, summarising the big message from Barbara J Hunt’s splendid book.
‘Every box I threw away, every cupboard I emptied – it was as though I was peeling layers of resentment off myself. I’d hated the hoard for so long, and now it was disappearing. Guess I cleared the crap in my head as well.’ – from Blackwater Lake by Maggie James.